I believe it all comes under the umbrella of "giving him the business."
like most humans, most refs don't mind "the business" if it does not sound like it is coming from an informed background. I have found it easy to "help" the refs over the years by asking questions....."At what point does that become a carry?" usually results in several 2nd half calls. The current style of dribbling where you freeze the ball in your hand definitely gives the offensive player an advantage but is getting called less often as the current mantra of calling the game is based on "advantage gained" and a lot of refs base their whole game on that concept.
Perhaps if you took the same approach of asking me to explain to you what point I was trying to make in my original post that started this thread that you took with refs while asking them for their thinking behind the calls they make...... then you wouldn't have gone off on the tangent that you did which resulted in all the posts that people made afterwards. However valid the words may all be. None of them really apply to my post, including yours.
This marks the 3rd time that you have taken something that I have said and run with it as if whatever your interpretation happens to be then that's exactly what the correct interpretation is.
Why exactly do you do that? Why not just ask me what point I'm trying to make before you go off in judgement?
See what I did there? Instead of telling you what it is that makes you do what you do I actually took the same approach that you took with refs.
I'm hoping it's not because you actually think you know more about basketball than I therfore I'm not to be "respected" in the same fashion
I'll share with you a nugget of wisdom that was once shared with me since you were considerate enough to share with me something that your father told you.
"it is more important to understand all the questions than it is to know all the answers"
I'd have a hard time believing that any words of wisdom passed on to you in your younger years would have served you better than that one.
.....and yes I'd very much like to know the answer to the question I asked you earlier in this reply. I'm all about understanding.