Borna: "Not sure that would happen these days. I know my Band Director told me "sports or band son, choose....." and my Scoutmaster told me "sports or scouts son ...choose" My pops was livid .. I remember him going toe to toe with both to no avail. ....now I understand why he was so incensed."
JSF: "That's really upsetting and a sign of adults putting themselves ahead of children. Educators, coaches, etc. should be doing what they can to open doors, not close them. I'm fine with encouraging someone to specialize but not with demanding it. Tell them why you think they should do a particular thing and give the possible consequences of either decision and let them make the choice. It's their life and you're there for them!"
Well - won't be that last tough choices they have to make in their lives - that's called, well, "life".
I had similar experiences. Band/Basketball. Baseball/Tennis. Girls/Band-Basketball-Baseball-Tennis. A job/Anything else. For me it came down to what made the most sense for me, and the school.
I was a gifted (boat ton lifetime of practice included here) trumpet/cornet player - and a very important cog in the success of our multi-award winning H.S. music/band program - including coaching/mentoring those younger/less talented than me. I could have been the #7 or #8 guy on the H.S. basketball team - but to me I was clearly more valuable to the music program - so I played intramural basketball on Saturday mornings instead (lead league in scoring Junior & Senior years - by a mile - team was champs those two years also - it was fun).
I grew up in a baseball family. I still LOVE baseball. My freshman year (1973) they began a tennis team at our H.S. I picked up a racket my freshman year and tried out as I was not going to make Varsity baseball. Found out I had a knack for this tennis thing. The next three years I was varsity tennis - 1st doubles with same partner for 3 years (also ex-baseball player) - never a loss at home, in our league, or in our county. I NEVER enjoyed tennis as much as I LOVED baseball - but again - was the best decision for all involved. 3 years league championships, etc.
You can make choices and pursue various sports or other activities/interests concurrently - in H.S. and throughout life. Just can't fully "dedicate/commit" yourself to "excellence" with too many. That's life. Music, theater, Hunting, Chess, etc., etc. can all be pursued, enjoyed, and increase your skill level/ability. "Renaissance" men/women are and become just such because they "choose" to be.
Last Edited: 9/2/2014 10:16:46 PM by RSBobcat